The easiest way to maintain the smile on your face

 "THE EASIEST WAY TO MAINTAIN THAT SMILE ON YOUR FACE!!!"

Smile is a thing that will for sure be returned to you by the person who receives it.It's the best way to brighten up anyone's day{even the ones who have issues with}.Many times while speaking to people they question me so as to how i keep smiling at people who hate me.lolzzz.

Well, I just smile and ignore the question maybe because i never knew the answer myself but i guess its time i reveal the secret that always lay in my heart. As a really small kid my mother always told me bed time stories and about the fairies who always forgave the "BAD" witches....:P... The fact whether you believe or not is that the more you forgive people the more happy you stay.I know that sounds like totally awkward but its true.

Forgiving isn't easy but when you really learn the art of forgiving you'll realize you are happier than ever. Its a fact that many people realize early in life and some people take forever to realize it but everyone does realize it.

The question now arises is that how do you forgive a person who has cheated on you, ditched you, bitched about you or hurt you in any way or how can you forgive your bf or gf whom you loved wit your whole heart and they turned out to be proper jerks.The answer lies in your own thoughts.Think about a time when you too have been mean to someone and everyone at some point as has been guilty of doing something that may have hurt another person. You may not have hurt that person in the same way but remember this earth is round and nothing can fall off it. And what goes around will surely come back  to  bite you.

Once u realize this you'll realize it's best to forgive  the person who hurt you because the earliest who forgive that person the earlier you will be able to overcome that pain.

My life has also been full of ups and downs but what still keeps me going is that deep in my heart i know that the person who hurt me will realize it sooner or la8r and feel guilty.

And one fact you always need to remember is that no matter what, a person cannot live with guilt and when a person realizes you forgave him or her for what they did they just feel more guilty so u see its a 2 sided win.I  hope you realize the beauty of forgiveness and learn it as soon as you can..

"Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong, The weak can never forgive"

All Things Happy

It doesn’t always have to big things like expensive watches & dresses (I so want one right now) to make us happy. Many times, its small things that put a smile on our faces. And this is my list of those things.

 

♥ Spending time with people I connect and love… be it family or friends. They sure do put a smile on my face.

♥ Pulling legs of my friends.

♥ That I have changed in past 2 years. Now I m more confident, more out going and can say ‘NO’.

♥ Rain, smelling the awesome smell of mother earth and eating either hot hot  butta (corn) or an ice cream… Heaven .

♥ Those mornings and days when I feel lazy and spend them exactly how I feel…lazing around.

♥ Gorging on my favorite food.

♥ A baby or kid smiling at me or holding my finger and knowing that one day in future I will have one of these angels to call my very own .

♥ Seeing the way my young niece and nephews react when I go to visit them. Seeing them so happy because of me, makes me happy.

♥ The fact that there are two people in this world who love me unconditionally and for whom I mean the world.

♥ People doing nice and sweet things for one another or for animals.

♥ Reading a good book with my favorite songs playing.

♥ Seeing couples in love.

♥ Love.

♥ Winning.

♥ When someone does something sweet for me.

♥ When I do something that I think is commendable.

♥ Knowing that I have lots of strength inside of me.

♥ Remembering all the good times I spent with my Grand Pa… remembering him makes me nostalgic but also happy.

♥ Watching one of my favorite movies, relaxing on couch with something to munch on.

♥ My perfect weather… cloudy and drizzling lightly.

♥ Finding money which I dint know existed.

♥ Going on long drives.

♥ Music.

♥ Taking pictures.

♥ Vacations.

♥ You guys and my blog. Every time I read your comments it just makes my day. So, What makes you guys happy?

Things That Make Me Happy

Sunset near the beach:  A walk along the marine lines gazing at the departing sun and listening to the splashing sea waves on the wall… swinging in and out… walking by the chaupati, where you can feel the cool water on your feet, and the rushing sand under the toes…

Laughing: When my family sits together, and we laugh on most minor and trivial issues till we get rolling on the  floor!

A hug from my love: Feels like I am the most protected person on this earth…! It’s a speechless experience where 26 alphabets and millions of word combination become so trifling to explain…

The family fight: No, no!! Not the real one! It’s what we called as love wrestling!! It’s our family game!!We fight like small kids, but we have fun as if we are best pals!!  We have battle with most hits and most kissed! Normally the match is between me and my dad where mom is a referee! Its total fun for which I, infact we 3, wait eagerly every time!

Pani-Puri: Muumuu! Dont have words for that! My mouth has already started watering…  Bye… I am out to have those!!

Till the time you keep commenting! Cause each new comment I receive I do get very happy to see those comments!! I am sure you will make me happy!!

Love

In several posts I have discussed how friendship and love are some of the highest forms of selfishness not selflessness as people frequently assume. One chooses another as a friend because he values that other more than mere strangers. The reason he values that other more than mere strangers is because the other follows the same moral standards as him. Therefore, similar people are friends. Dissimilar people cannot be friends, for they follow different moralities. Thus, they think one another is vicious. For example, a Marxist and a capitalist cannot be friends because the Marxist believes the capitalist is vicious, and the capitalist believes the Marxist is vicious.

The same goes for love. The only difference is that when one loves another, he chooses one person above all others, even his friends. One can have several friends. One can value several people more than strangers. However, one can only have a single favorite. That favorite, the best friend, is the one he loves.

Of course, this person, the one he loves, is only second to his self. The mere fact that he is choosing another person to love indicates that he values his self the most, even greater than the person he loves, for he is choosing that person because he enjoys being with that person, that person does not corrupt his virtue, that person makes him happy. When one is happy one is acting selfishly. Thus, love has nothing to do with sacrifice.

Unfortunately, most people assume that love is completely about selflessness and sacrifice. They believe love is about compromise. The assumption is, if one loves another, one will give up things - actions, items, etc. - for the other. This is not love. This is self-destruction. This is the atrocious sickening delusion that when two people love one another they become one. 1 + 1 does not = 1. 1 + 1 = 2. When two people love one another they are still two individuals; however, together they become more in the sense that they are happy, they enjoy life. The teaching of two loving individuals becoming one indicates that the individuals of the relationship decrease in value. They destroy parts of themselves so they can be one instead of two. They begin with more value than when they end. Since love is about happiness, about selfishness, one cannot destroy his self to love another. If he does so, he will be miserable, not happy. For before one enters a relationship he loves his self. He loves who he is. He has chosen to be a certain person, act a certain way because it is virtuous because it makes him happy. However, if he enters a relationship demanding sacrifice, he is aborting some of his virtues, aborting what makes him happy. In turn, this will result in one hating the person he allegedly loves because the other caused him to destroy his self, and it will also result in one loathing him self, for he is being less than who he was, the person he chose to be because it made him happy.

A further problem with this is that one must love him self before he loves others. A self-loathing individual cannot love another. If one loathes him self, he is basically saying that he is shit, that he is worthless. He admits that he is a failure, meaning he has not realized his values; thus, he is also admitting that he is vicious. Consequently, he is saying that he is unworthy of love. He believes that no one should selfishly choose him over all others, for he thinks he is worse than all others. Therefore, one contradicts himself by searching for love to cure his self loathing.

Additionally, as I have stated several times before love is a selfish act. Thus, one loves another because he believes he deserves love. Essentially, he values himself enough to pursue and enjoyable relationship with another. If one loathes himself, however, he admits he is of no value, that he is so horrible he does not deserve to enjoy a relationship with another. Therefore, one must obviously love himself before he loves others. 

Firstly, I now realize that I must love another that enjoys the same activities as me. If I am to love another, the other must be interested in philosophical discussion like this. I am not saying everyone must like philosophical discussion. Everyone should be concerned about truth and being virtuous, but not everyone must enjoy the exploration of it. My argument here is that two people who love one another must enjoy similar activities. For example, one who enjoy skiing, and loves the winter, cannot love someone who loathes the winter and despises skiing.

Secondly, it is completely nonsensical that one should not be able to enjoy innocent activities with other friends. It would make sense for one to oppose his loved one's use of heroine with others, for heroine indicates all kinds of unstable moral positions of the other person. Discussing politics, playing sports, playing video games, board games, card games, watching movies, listening to music, all pretty innocent activities that one should not demand his alleged loved one not to partake in.