Understanding Life

If there is one truth about life, it is its unhindered and continuous change, for as long as the life remains.There have been a number of philosophers who've tried to describe life but no one's ever reached a consensus about it. According to some, life is the name of continuous happening, continuous involvement, continuous evolution... and all these phenomenon lead to one word, change.

I recently saw this movie called 'The Tree of Life' which also tried to describe the truth of life and I'll have to say the way the movie presented its concept was quite convincing. The movie gets you stunned by its visuals which were extraordinarily captured from all the ordinary things. And surprisingly, these are the ordinary things that confine the truth of life within them, ready to be explored, ready to be unearthed.

The movie covers a part of the life-span of a boy and depicts different phases of his life. How his parents are fascinated by his existence when he's born. How he grows up and takes his very first step. How he speaks his very first word. How he looks upto his parents in difficult scenarios which he does not understand. And ultimately, how he starts to understand things and starts detaching from his past, his parents.

There are so many things which I didn't understand at all but now things have started to fall in place. The reason behind this is nothing but the change and development brought by life.

Few years back a teacher, while making us read a sophisticated book, said, "These words are gonna remain the same, but they would mean different to you when you read them again in a few years". At that time, all I did as a response was make jest out of it but it was now that I realized that he was right.

Well, the movie just triggered a thought in my mind and I couldn't help writing it down. There's nothing I understand about life yet but I'm certain the change would continue... until the end.

Expectations

You often expect a lot from others when you stand on their expectations. They are close, close to what you never expect or you ever expected.

Expectations, that's what life is about.

• A mother's from her very own creator.
• A father's from his very own beginner.
• A teacher's from it's very own learner.
• A be-beloved's from it's very own lover.
• A toddler's from it's very own leader.
• A friend's from it's very own mirror.

From A-Z of our very own life, we consistently try, try to stand on what others expect from Us. And similarly expect from them too. Often what we end up with are bunch of expectations either not fulfilled by Us or by them.Life become darker and more darker. Some get over it and let it go  while others keep them deep inside and let it grow. Difference that counts is how it matter to them. What was the reason they never stood or weren't able to stood?

• Was that the most beautiful creation?
• Was that my fruit's fulfillment?
• Was that our love's wish?
• Was that my learner's talent?
• Was that my best-est reflection?

With the fight of not expecting and expecting, we unintentionally neglect to their wishes and wants. May be it wouldn't be that darker if we had seen through their sight. May be we would have made it a better place.

A place where one understands other, where expectations are delayed or rephrased but never fall. Expect as much as you wish to but within the walls of not only you of the people you expect from. Do think but not your way, keep it aside and fit into their shoe and explore them. Life will be beautiful and more beautiful.

Nevertheless, it is they who make your life not only you. They are your life not you! : )

Live to work or work to live?

Who can tell me what’s the meaning of live? I am a little confused by my thoughts. I though for a while lonely. By the end I summary my own answer that is I work to afford my life and work will become my life.

I define my life is live to work before 35 years old. I am willing to devote all my time and efforts to work. In other words, I am working very hard for a visible promotion and long term professional career. I would like to earn more and more money in order to  afford my life and my family. Through hardworking, I’m able to meet my dream of material life, such as house, car, beautiful things and so on. The all what I’ve mentioned are a preparation for my future life. I believe the high quality life won’t be far under the firm financial support. As a member of young generation, I have no reason to stop fighting  for a better life. There is no doubt that hardworking is the most practical way to realize my dream. So I want to say that I will choose live to work as I’m young. 

On the contrary, I choose work to live without hesitation after 35 years old. At that time, I will pay main attention to my family and life. It’s time to spend a lot of time and energy to my kid and family. I will enjoy life, and spend more money for travel, party, sports, charity and something else. It’s time to enjoy to do what I want to do without financial pressure. During the period, work just occupies  a  small part in my life. I earn money by work and have fun form work. I enjoy work but not only rely on it for fun.  

From Heart

Life is short, and we all need to step back and realize how great it really can be. 

Be optimistic. Think of life in the best way possible, bright side and find the better side of every situation. You would be amazed at how much more there is to life than the negative.

Live every moment to the fullest. Don’t waste a single second being sad, bored, or lonely. Get out there and dance, and sing as if no one was around. You never know how much longer you have to do so.  

 Laugh often. This is possibly the most important point in this how-to guide. Laughter is the number one most important thing in life. Laugh much, and smile often.  

 Live in the present. Forget about the past, as there is nothing you can do about it. Don’t worry about the future, as what is to come is to come, and if you forget to live in the moment, you would be surprised at how quickly time can slip.  

Be kind to everyone. Kindness is the key to unlocking your own happiness and joy. If others notice your kindness, they will gratefully return it. Make as many close friends as you can, and help them when they are down, as you never know when you will need them to catch you.  

Find a Partner. Find someone to love can be very hard however just be patient and maybe that special person will come along.

The easiest way to maintain the smile on your face

 "THE EASIEST WAY TO MAINTAIN THAT SMILE ON YOUR FACE!!!"

Smile is a thing that will for sure be returned to you by the person who receives it.It's the best way to brighten up anyone's day{even the ones who have issues with}.Many times while speaking to people they question me so as to how i keep smiling at people who hate me.lolzzz.

Well, I just smile and ignore the question maybe because i never knew the answer myself but i guess its time i reveal the secret that always lay in my heart. As a really small kid my mother always told me bed time stories and about the fairies who always forgave the "BAD" witches....:P... The fact whether you believe or not is that the more you forgive people the more happy you stay.I know that sounds like totally awkward but its true.

Forgiving isn't easy but when you really learn the art of forgiving you'll realize you are happier than ever. Its a fact that many people realize early in life and some people take forever to realize it but everyone does realize it.

The question now arises is that how do you forgive a person who has cheated on you, ditched you, bitched about you or hurt you in any way or how can you forgive your bf or gf whom you loved wit your whole heart and they turned out to be proper jerks.The answer lies in your own thoughts.Think about a time when you too have been mean to someone and everyone at some point as has been guilty of doing something that may have hurt another person. You may not have hurt that person in the same way but remember this earth is round and nothing can fall off it. And what goes around will surely come back  to  bite you.

Once u realize this you'll realize it's best to forgive  the person who hurt you because the earliest who forgive that person the earlier you will be able to overcome that pain.

My life has also been full of ups and downs but what still keeps me going is that deep in my heart i know that the person who hurt me will realize it sooner or la8r and feel guilty.

And one fact you always need to remember is that no matter what, a person cannot live with guilt and when a person realizes you forgave him or her for what they did they just feel more guilty so u see its a 2 sided win.I  hope you realize the beauty of forgiveness and learn it as soon as you can..

"Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong, The weak can never forgive"

Lost are those who are forgotten

 

Life cannot be better, we say when everything around us goes the way we want it to be. It feels like we have been riding a big airplane-sized car on the straight and plain highway of life. There is no traffic, no stop sign, nothing to distract us. We and our life. We get whatever we want. Life feels picture-perfect. 

This is where we do the prime mistake of our lives. The slip where we are going to slide so hard that  we are going to burst. We do not even realize what we are doing. We climb all the way to the mountains and do not know our way down. This is where life likes to play with us. To play with our emotions and beloved ones. Just to make us stronger. Life just wants us to realize the authenticity and not to forget the sure-happenings of life. Life puts a bump on the super straight highway. A slow-down. Life takes away our beloved ones from us. 

Ones without whom our life is meaningless. Ones who ho are actually the wheels of our car which keeps our vehicle running. What should we do in that situation? Give up? I don’t think so. Life itself is so dumb. It just knows few tricks to get us but we are a lot smarter than that. Do not let life play on us but play with life. Tell life how strong we are and we have not forgotten anything. We know our way down and we know that life is not perfect. Tell life that we know we all are in this world to leave. We know that this straight simple way is going to be stony at some place and we will get through it. Sometimes we think that why life chose us to be the victim. Remember we are not the victims, we are blessed ones. 

Life did it to us because we are a lot stronger than other people and we will become inspiration of people. We will become a source of message for other million people and show them that we are living in the real world and we thank God for everything. We obviously miss the lost ones but now we are going to live our own lives because people need us. Because this world needs some good people to be here still to spread the intelligence. Our families need us to support them and we will make proud those who are taken away from us. We did not actually lose them. 

Lost are those who are forgotten. They will be there with us, in our memories forever. We will meet them in heaven someday and will spend the never-ending life with them. Everybody loves us. I used “We” all over this little message because it’s not just you. You are not alone. It’s you and me together. It’s we now and forever.

Quarter-life Crisis

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

This is called as Quarter-life Crisis."

A winter's tale

A year without a winter is like a rose without thorns, impossible. It first signals it arrival with the advent of autumn when yellow leaves fall on the ground from weak and helpless trees.

Then a time comes when there isn't a single leaf on a tree,  just white snow. It is a time of despair for the unsheltered, unclothed and hungry. Walking on the cold ground with chilly winds blowing in your face is like inviting the angel of death towards you.

Perhaps sometimes its useless to fight with that which is bound to come once in a while in everyone’s life. No matter how strong a man may be, he still has to wait for spring to come to feel the warmth, the life and the strength within the soul. Only then will he realize the blessing of happiness which enriches the mind and glows the face and makes one ready to face the winter again…..

Hope like the gleaming tapers light, Adorns and cheers our way, And still as darker grows the night, emits a brighter day….                      

  — Oliver Goldsmith